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The Cold

Sitting in an empty room
filled with heat,
hugging you close,
feeling secure,
feeling comfortable,
feeling calm.

A lick of a breeze passes by,
the air turns one degree colder than before,
the cold creeps in ever so slowly,
where is it coming from?
This room has no doors,
windows or crevices.

But the warmth is escaping
leaving in its midst
the cold.
The cold ebbing towards
the tips of my fingers and toes,
they say the extremities go first.

The cold creeping up on you in the dark,
like shadows dancing on the walls,
sneaking up on me when my back is turned.
The cold creeps ever so slowly,
clinging to the material woven in to string,
string into cloth,
cloth into clothes.
The cold vile and unseen
but it’s presence ever felt.
I know its there.
I can’t move.
Can’t block it out.
Any movement creates a vacuum of space
pulling the cold ever closer.

It’s a losing game it is,
the one we fight with the cold.
Before you know it,
even in the warm months,
it will slowly find its way back,
shocking my system
worse than I remembered it could be,
the warmer months were just a false pretense of gullibility.

So I welcome back those glacial winters,
with my warm arms open
heat escaping me,
into the waiting cold.
Cause it’s waiting.
And before I know it,
its here.

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I lay awake at night thinking about what we are now. I don’t know how to define it. The word “couple” feels empty as my emotion is gone. Sucked out of me dry.

I think of the times we first met, my first thoughts were “oh boy, he has a cute smile” and “he waddles in a kind of endearing way when he walks” but primarily that you were a gentleman. After those few bad dates I had been on I thought this seemed promising so I was determined to make it work. And I think that’s where you can say our relationship went wrong.

I smiled as we went on future dates and I spoke about my day and you eyes were glued to the TV at the restaurant. Now I’m not saying that you shouldn’t watch TV. But that is all you did, you ate, and stared up and I didn’t say a word. I tried to ask you about the game that was on to make conversation. I tried. That’s were I still went wrong.

You lied to me about your past, about the fact that you smoke. About school. You lied to me because you wanted to impress me because as you say, I was the first real “nice” girl you met who could keep up conversations. And I didn’t want to scare you away although I felt betrayed. I wanted to be understanding, kind, and get you to open up more so I let it go. I let it go, and let go of pieces I once valued.

I used to want a man who I could keep up intellectual conversations with, who had a passion about work or school, who was driven,had my sense of humour, family oriented, and affectionate just enough to remind me that I was more than your friend but rather your partner. I let those thoughts fly away brushing them away as if I was being unreasonable and had too high expectations. Instead I was left with you. The kind and caring you who lacked everything else I needed.

Now I have always been a committed person, and even when things aren’t going the way I want them to I work hard to make things work. I do this in all aspects of my life. So I committed to us, and had hope and faith in us that it would get better. Every now and then when the hope began to die, you would do something small which would spark the fire of hope in my heart once more. But then you would allow it to fall back again, lower and lower, until it needed to be rekindled.

You have let this fire die such that I no longer have emotions for you. I feel empty like I have given it all I have got and you keep coming back for more demanding the shell of me to love you. I don’t know what else I have to give. I stand here a changed person, and look back at you and see you are still the same person. You stayed true to who you were while I morphed to adjust to your every move. All I wanted was to feel loved. To feel cherished. To feel special. To feel beautiful.

All I wanted to do was show someone how good a person I could be. How self-less, devoted, kind, and committed to someone I could be. How flexible and supporting I could be. And I did that. I showed you. I made you fall for me. And you keep coming back for the care. But it was given for a small price in the past, and now you expect it for free.


Today I took your heart and broke it in two.
I felt your pain as if it were my own
and all I wanted to do was hold you and
protect you from myself.
From the words that I could not continue.
That we could not continue to be,
if my own heart were to keep beating on this world
with my lungs staying full
each and everyday.

I ripped open that wound.
You told me you had trust issues.
I won’t be surprised if you walk on from this
with distrust for the whole world.
I love you and care for you.
I want the best for you in this world
and I want you to grow into the person you deserve to be and be able to love,
and trust again.

I want you to go back to school and make something of yourself.
I want you to be able to walk into a room and be proud of who you are.
Because you were the kindest person to me and always had my back,
always held my hand in spirit.
But not in real life.
And my needs had grown real.
My pain is now so real.
For years I have been holding everything together for other people.
Holding onto everyone so tight,
keeping them safe and secure,
without realizing that the more people I helped
the more help I needed.
And none of it was returned.
No one tried or worried about me or wanted to keep me pieced together.
So this is why I need to let you go.
I know you tried, but at this point it wasn’t enough.
I hope you understand.
Because with no one,
I can only depend on myself,
and will myself to get better, stronger, and happier.
Only I can do this.
I hope you can find beauty and love in this world.
I hope you can lay back one day with the sun on your face and smile.
Smile for the both of us.
Until I learn how to,
remember how to, all on my own.

I’m so sorry, with all my heart.
Or whatever is left of it.

The Winners

Some people at school are aggressive. Overly, aggressive. Their goal is to dominate the yard, showing everyone who they are, what they are capable and putting you in your spot. Some people at school are just not nice.

I don’t understand why we need to tear each other down. The human brain has the tendency to want to trust one another and to build each other up. It even rewards us with a rush of dopamine when this trust pays off. We innately should have a altruistic tendency to want to help each other, but where has this gene disappeared to?

Where have all the good, kind, caring people gone. The type of people who look at you without judgement, maybe offer you are hand when they see you struggling without you having to ask? Where have the people who ask you with genuine concern how you are doing and if you are doing ok? Where have the people who build each other up gone?

Why have people become this race of individuals who feel its ok to tear each other down, ripping a person limb from limb just so they can stand on the first-place podium. Don’t these people realize that when you tear everyone down just to get to the top, there will be no one left to cheer for you and congratulate you on your success?

Lesson from this: Be kind, ask people how they are, take the time to listen, and go do something nice for someone just to make their day. Be aware of the people around you and how your presence affects them.


I don’t know if I’m the type of person that feels too much or too little.
When my family is supposed to be there for me and act like a family and fail to do so,
is it wrong that it makes me sad the rest of the day?
That I spend a lot of time asking myself if they would care if I was around or not?
Is it bad that I know the answers to these questions already?

Is it bad when my love expresses his love, his care, and his concern for me
I feel nothing?
And that I’m aware I feel nothing,
just his words deflecting off my skin without my ability to control what seeps past
my “tough” exterior.

I want to feel what I can’t and stop feeling what I do.
It’s a never ending inner war I fight with myself on the daily.

All I do feel is I’m spiralling out of control,
as if another person has snuck behind the steering wheel,
now taking the reigns of my life.

Our Long Distance Relationship

I saw you today. It had been 2 months since the last time you saw me.
You gave me a small peck on my lips but that’s it.
We walked around and our plans slowly unfolded
into moments where you flashed around money
you didn’t have,
then followed by complaints of going to areas where people are.
Is it so bad that I want to be in a place so many people enjoy,
nothing unreasonable,
but I can’t even get comfortable looking in one store in a mall,
the whole time I can feel your discomfort,
restlessness, and stress.

We went for a short walk,
something you never want to do and complain about doing
after only 5 minutes of doing so.
But yet you say it’s a nice day and you want to
spend it outside.

At dinner there are long pauses,
I don’t know what to say,
the whole time all I can think is thank god I have this
good food in front of me and in front of you
because its the only thing keeping our mouths busy
from having to acknowledge the growing silence.

I notice another couple across from us,
the man brushes hair away from his partner’s face.
Another man gently touches his partner’s lower back
guiding her to their table.
But all you did was give me a small peck on the lips today.
You walk in front of me or behind me
an extra piece of evidence to show we are growing further apart.

I don’t know what else to say to you.
But I’m scared to tell you it’s over.
I’m scared to tell you I don’t think I feel the same.
I’m scared to shatter your life,
since you told me I’m the only good thing keeping you going.
So instead, I shatter me own.

They say love is sacrifice,
but how much of me am I willing to give?

First Impressions

They say your external appearance reflects who you are.
I used to have coiffed, glassy, french tip nails,
lacquered to perfection.
Each tip filed to the smoothest of shapes.
Since then,
my nails are deformed, chipped, and in dire need of a good manicure.

My hair used to tumble past my shoulders,
in perfect locks of curls,
thick and luscious,
strong and soft.
Now my hair is frizzy, tangled, matted, breaking, coarse and falling out.

I used to outline my eyes with bold crisp lines of kohl liner,
lashes flicked out as they framed my
bright green eyes.
Now my eyes are bare, ill-looking, lacking the luster
and playfulness they once held.

I’ve lost myself,
and what was once shiny and new,
radiant sunshine and positivity,
has escaped me,
leaving behind someone unrecognizable.


I remember asking you if you were ok.
I asked you if you were ok and I still helped you when you said you were. Because I knew.
I knew that people needed help when they said they didn’t.
I knew that at the age of 4.

I also knew that you had to be nice to people and so I helped you because I learned it was not good to be sad and so I felt the need to be a protector.
It was my job to protect everyone at the age of 4.
But who protected me?

I would help people and I was blind to the pieces of me that were falling away,
pieces of me I can’t get back to this day,
pieces of me which are lost and I now seek to find.
I’ve been searching for those pieces of myself for a long time.

But those pieces of me have been lost for a long time. They have been trampled upon and buried deep beneath the residue of dusty thoughts
lurking at the corners of my mind.

I think I’ve given to much of myself away,
to the point that I’m no longer myself,
I have nothing left to define myself.
Nothing left to bind the lost pieces to if they ever were found.

Who am I.

Hold On

I find myself clenching my teeth in my sleep,
flexing my back in anticipation,
all muscle tight in my neck,
no part of me relaxed,
my every nerve on edge.

I anticipate the pain I’m going to cause,
too afraid to cause,
to you.

I anticipate the loneliness,
the close friend who got behind my walls,
I’ll lose.

I anticipate the late nights,
the ever quiet days
and nights
I’ll lay awake.

I anticipate a decrease in faith,
a lack of trust
as my walls grow ever higher
a place for me to
forever hide behind.

Why does holding on to the one thing I love
hurt so much?


We used to dance,
listening to the gypsy kings,
me balanced on your
twirling round and round.

We used to dance.
Now we dance around the past.
We dance around your dances
with mama
dances that lasted hours.

Your dances were an elegant craft
one of contact,
a methodology so no one would see.
A dance so intricate,
people would bleed to see it,
you’d leave them breathless.

Arms outstretched,
fingers splayed,
across necks,
and torsos.
You’d would dance with us.

A dance so different,
it morphed into
a normative form
of lies twisted
delicately around my feet,
like the phone cords
pulled from the walls.

Your delicate touch used to
twirl me,
spin me round.
It did just that,
in spun my life,
my thoughts,
my perceptions,
into a silk weave
of hate.

A permanent form of
caution tape
weaving through my veins.
No one can pass.
You may not pass.
I won’t let you in.

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